by Rabbi Avram Rothman, Aish/Thornhill Community Shul
The custom on Pesach of not eating Matza or Matza products that have come into contact with liquids is commonly known as the custom of not eating “gebruchs”. It is most common among those Jews of Polish, Hungarian or Ukrainian backgrounds and most often observed by Chassidim or those from a Chassidic background. It is based on the belief that there is a potential that Matza or Matza products may not have been baked perfectly and may have some uncooked flour on them. Thereby, when added to liquid, the flour will become chometz. To those who observe it, it is a very serious custom and one that presents a number of challenges over Pesach.
I am often asked if this is a custom that one should adopt. Based on my traditions, the Halacha as I see it and the teachings of my Rabbanim, unless there is a specific reason that one feels they have to adopt this custom, I believe that one should not do so. I am not commenting on the veracity of the custom, however, it is one that a person who does not presently observe it should not adopt and follow. Therefore, when asked by our membership if they should follow this custom and no longer eat anything on Passover that has been made by adding liquid to Matza or Matza meal, it is my advise and Halachic response that one should not adopt this custom.
In addition, I am often asked about the eating of “kitniyot” on Pesach. In this case it is an Ashkenazic custom that has been adopted by all Azkenazic communities for many generations that one should not eat foods on Pesach that fall under this category. While Sephardic Jews never accepted this custom and still eat kitniyot, we, Ashkenazi Jews do not. This would forbid, for example, eating rice, peas, beans, peanuts, oils made from these and some other items, to name just a few.
Since Sephardic Jews do in fact eat these items, one will find such items in the store marked as Kosher for Passover. Usually there will be a note on these food items stating that they are only Kosher for Passover for those whom eat kitniyot. We do not eat these items.
Finally, I would like to address the question of Egg Matza. Egg Matza is an example, in
my opinion, of some companies putting profit before Halacha. Not that they are chometz. Not at all. However, Halacha stipulates that a person should not eat Egg Matza unless they are elderly, ill or unable to digest regular Matza. In fact, it is often printed on the box of Egg Matza that these are onlyKosher for Passover for special individuals and that the general population should not eat them. However, this warning is often written in Yiddish and not easily understandable by many people whom purchase Passover food or observe Passover. To be succinct, a healthy person should, in no way, eat Egg Matza, not in its original form and not in any changed form or cooked/baked item at all over Passover. Even though it is not Chometz, it does not fit the description of Matza because of its additional ingredients, such as eggs.
I hope that these three examples will assist our community in observing Passover fully
and not fall prey to some of the common mistakes or misunderstandings that effect the
observance of Passover
Kadesh – Recite the Kiddush:
1. The actual Kiddush should be made as soon as it is nightfall. The preferred time for nightfall for this year of 5775 is 8:36 PM. One can be lenient and begin at 8:28 PM. One should not make Kiddush earlier than that time. If the late start will cause Shalom Bayis issues, please contact your Rabbi for practical suggestions. All preliminary activities may begin earlier. [such as singing the Kadesh, Urchatz...song]
2. The Matzos should be covered during the Kiddush. The rule throughout the Seder is that the Matzos should be uncovered except when the wine is held.
3. The leader of the Seder should not pour his own cup, but another person should pour for him. Some have the custom that no one pours his own cup.
4. There are different customs as to who recites the Kiddush:
• The leader of the Seder recites the Kiddush and the others listen.
• Each head of the household recites the Kiddush and their family members listen.
• Everyone recites the Kiddush together, including the women and children.
5. All the participants should have their own cup of wine and hold it during Kiddush, whether they are listening or reciting it.
6. It is preferable to use red wine. If there is a white wine of a better quality, one may use it; but it is preferable to mix it with a little red wine to give it a red color. In that case one should preferably pour the white wine into the red wine when mixing on Yom Tov.
7. Sparkling wine is acceptable if it tastes like wine.
8. If one can not tolerate even weak wine, one may use grape juice.
9. The Kiddush cup must be able to contain at least three fluid ounces. On a Friday night, the first cup must contain at least 4 1⁄2 fluid ounces.
10. When reciting the Kiddush, one should have in mind to fulfill two Mitzvos: The Mitzvah of Kiddush and the Mitzvah of drinking the first of the four cups of wine.
11. When saying the “Shehechiyanu” blessing one should have in mind that it applies to the Holiday and all the Mitzvos of the Seder.
12. Ideally, one should drink the entire cup. If this is not possible, it is sufficient to drink the majority of the cup. It is better to use a small cup containing the minimum quantity that can be finished, than a large cup that can not be finished.
13. Ideally the cup should be drunk without pausing. If this is not possible, one may stop once for a short pause during the drinking. If this too is not possible, one fulfills his obligation if he drinks the required quantity within four minutes.
14. Men must recline on their left side when drinking the wine. [The same is true for a left-handed person.]
15. If one did not recline while drinking the first cup, and realized after its completion, he should not drink it again.
16. One is permitted to drink non-alcoholic beverages between the first and second cups.
Urchatz – Wash the Hands:
1. All the participants should wash their hands in the same manner as is done before eating bread or Matzo, except that no blessing is made.
2. Some have the custom that the leader of the Seder has his hands washed at his seat by the table by one of the children.
3. Care should be taken not to speak after the washing until the Karpas is eaten, unless the talking is related to the performance of the Mitzvah.
Karpas – Eat the Vegetable:
1. Karpas is a vegetable, preferably one that is eaten raw. The most commonly used are celery, sweet radish, cabbage, and parsley. [make sure to inspect for insects before Yom Tov where necessary] Some use potato. Lettuce should not be used, since one may not use a vegetable that qualifies as Maror.
2. Each person at the Seder is given a piece less than 30cc.!1
3. The Karpas should be held with one’s fingers.
4. The Karpas is dipped in salt water.
5. Each person recites the blessing “Borei P’ri Hoadama.”
6. When reciting the blessing, one should have in mind that this blessing should include the Maror that will be eaten later in the Seder.
7. One is not obligated to recline when eating the Karpas, but one may do so if he wishes. The prevalent custom is to eat it without reclining.
8. The remaining Karpas may be removed from the table. Some have a custom to leave a piece of Karpas on the Seder plate until the meal. The salt water may be removed.
Yachatz – Break the Middle Matzo:
1. The middle Matzo is broken into two uneven pieces.
2. The smaller piece is returned to the Seder plate or Matzo cover, and the larger one is
wrapped in a cloth and put aside to use as the Afikoman.
3. The smaller piece should be at least the size of 25 grams, and it is therefore advisable
to select a large Matzo for the middle Matzo.
4. It s a custom for the children to take the Afikoman and hide it when the leader of the
Seder is not watching.
Maggid – Relate the Story of the Haggadah:
1. Before beginning the narrative of the Haggadah one should have in mind to fulfill the obligation to relate the story of the Exodus from Egypt.
2. The Mitzvah is not fulfilled by mere recital of the Haggadah if the words are not understood. Those who are not familiar with Hebrew are strongly advised to spend time studying the Haggadah, in order to turn the Seder night into a deep and meaningful experience.
3. It is better to read the Haggadah in a language that you understand than to read it in Hebrew and not understand it at all.
4. The leader must ensure that everyone understands at least the most essential sections of the narrative.
5. The most important sections of the narrative are the ten plagues and from the section that begins “Rabbi Gamliel used to say” until the second cup is drunk.
6. Everyone can either recite the Haggadah or listen to the leader read it, as long as one understands what is being said. Most people follow the custom to recite the Haggadah if they are fluent in Hebrew.
7. The leader of the Seder should hold the broken middle Matzo while saying “Ha Lachma Anya.”
8. The Seder plate containing the Matzos should be removed from the table, or at least moved away from the leader, after saying “Ha Lachma Anya.” The second cup is filled.
9. The custom is for the youngest child capable of asking the “Ma Nishtana.” If the child is hesitant, his father or mother may assist him. If there are no children present, the wife or any of the participants should ask the four questions.
10.After the “Ma Nishtana” the Seder plate containing the Matzos should be returned to their place in front of the leader of the Seder and left uncovered during the narrative. The story of the slavery and exodus is now related in detail.
11.One should not recline during the narrative – one should sit upright with awe and respect.
12.A total of 16 drops of wine are spilled out when enumerating the ten plaques and the surrounding text, as indicated in the Haggadah.
13.One should use the index finger to spill out the one. If a person is too sensitive to use his finger, he should spill out the drops by tilting the cup. 14.If necessary the cups should be refilled before saying “Rabbi Gamliel etc.”
15.The leader should hold up the broken middle Matzo when saying “This Matzo etc.” 16.The leader should hold up the Maror when saying “This Maror etc.”
17.The leader should not hold up the shank bone when saying “This Korban Pesach etc.”
However, the custom is to look at the shank bone.
18.You drink the second cup of wine [while reclining] at the conclusion of the Maggid. If a
man forgot to recline he should immediately drink anther cup without a blessing.
Rochtza – Wash the Hands:
1. Wash your hands like you normally would do for the eating of Matzo. You do recite the blessing of “Al Netilas Yodayim.”
2. The leader of the Seder should announce that one may not speak after washing the hands until after “Korech,” unless it concerns the Mitzvos.
3. He should inform everyone about the next few steps of the Seder, and tell them the relevant laws.
4. Each person should be given a piece of Matzo weighing at least 25 grams in preparation for the Mitzvah of eating Matzo. Children may be given 10 grams each.
5. The steps “Rochtza, Motzi,and Matzo” should be announced.
6. Some have the custom that the leader of the Seder has his hands washed at his seat by
the table by one of the children.
Motzi / Matzo – Two Blessings Are Recited on the Matzo:
1. The Matzo eaten for the various Mitzvos of the Seder night must be Shmura
Matzo. It can either be handmade or machine made Matzo. It is preferable to use
handmade matzos for the Seder plate.
2. The leader of the Seder should have in mind to include everyone else with his
blessings.
3. Everyoneelseshouldhaveinmindtofulfillhisobligationbylisteningtotheblessings.
4. While the blessings are said, everyone should have in mind to fulfill the Mitzvah of
eating Matzo on the first night of Pesach.
5. You should have in mind that the blessings should also apply to the Korech and
Afikoman.
6. The men should remember to recline while eating the Matzo.
7. The Matzos should be covered while the blessing of “Hamotzei” is recited.
8. All three Matzos should be held for the first blessing, after which the lowest Matzo is
released. The remaining two Matzos are held for the second blessing.
9. Ideally,the two Matzos should be broken simultaneously after the blessing.
10.The leader of the Seder should take for himself 15 grams from the top matzo and 15
grams from the middle one. Both pieces should be eaten together.
11.Everyone else should be given a small piece from the top matzo in addition to the prepared piece of 25 grams that was distributed before washing. Both pieces should be
eaten together.
12.NOTE: An average hand Matzo is between 50-80 grams and a machine Matzo is 30
grams.
13.The main custom is not to dip the Matzo in salt.
14.The Matzo should be eaten as quickly as possible, but in no more than two minutes. If
this is difficult, it may be eaten within four minutes. This is measured from the time that one begins to swallow the Matzo. One should nevertheless not eat in a state of frenzy or with voracity, but rather with dignity and joy as one fulfills the Mitzvah of Hashem. 15.One may drink a little water to facilitate swallowing if one’s mouth is too dry to swallow. 16.If a man forgot to recline while eating the Matzos, he must eat another 30 grams of
Matzo while reclining, but no blessing is said.
Maror – Eat the Bitter Herbs:
1. The widespread custom is to use either romaine or iceberg lettuce or grated horseradish. Great care must be given to insure that all lettuce is insect - free. Horseradish may not be eaten whole. Commercially processed horseradish is not acceptable.
2. One should eat a quantity of lettuce leaves that covers an area of 8” X 10” or lettuce stalks that covers an area 3” X 5”. If grated horseradish is used, one should eat 27 cc if possible. If this is difficult, it is sufficient to eat 17 cc [approx. one heaping tablespoon].
3. One may combine both types of Maror to make the required amount.
4. The Maror should be eaten as quickly as possible, but in no more than two minutes. If this is difficult, it may be eaten within four minutes. This is measured from the time
that one begins to swallow the Maror.
5. Dip some of the Maror in the Charoses [a mixture of finely chopped fruits, spices, and red wine. Traditionally, the fruits are sour apples and nuts and the spices are cinnamon and ginger]. Before the dipping, the Charoses should be diluted considerably at this stage by adding more wine, making it suitable for dipping.
6. The custom is for each person to recite his own blessing of “Al Achilas Maror.”
7. When making the blessing one should think about fulfilling the Mitzvah of eating Maror
and that the blessing should also apply to the Korech.
8. One does not recline when eating Maror.
Korech – Eat the Sandwich of Matzo and Maror:
1. The bottom Matzo is used for Korech. Since this is usually not sufficient for everyone, the leader of the Seder should distribute to each person a small piece from this Matzo and supplement it with other Matzo to make the required quantity.
2. Each person should have 15 grams of Matzo.
3. One eats the same amount of Maror for Korech as one eats for Maror.
4. The main custom is to dip the Maror in Charoses
5. The custom is to place the Maror between the two pieces of Matzo.
6. No blessing is recited before eating the sandwich, but a paragraph is said beginning
with the words “Zeicher LeMikdash KiHillel.”
7. The Korech should be eaten as quickly as possible, but in no more than two minutes. If
this is difficult, it may be eaten within four minutes. This is measured from the time
that one begins to swallow the Maror.
8. Men should recline when eating Korech.
9. If a man forgot to recline,he need not eat another Korech.
Shulchan Orech – Eat the Yom Tov Meal:
1. The custom is to begin the meal with eggs dipped in salt water. Some people eat the egg from the Seder plate.
2. Some have the custom to eat fish as well.
3. One must not eat poultry or meat that is prepared without any liquid. This includes
roasted, barbequed, and broiled. 4. Onemaynoteatpoultryormeatthatisroastedinapotwithoutanyliquid.Onemayeat poultry or meat that is roasted in a pot with some liquid.
5. The shank bone should not be eaten.
6. One should not eat excessively. Overeating may cause drowsiness and one will not be
able to conclude the Seder successfully. One must also remain with some appetite for
the Afikoman at the end of the meal.
7. One must leave sufficient time after the meal to eat the Afikoman before Halachik midnight, which is 1:21 AM.
8. It is praiseworthy for a man to recline during the meal, but not a requirement.
9. According to some opinions, it is a Mitzvah to drink some wine during the meal in honor
of Yom Tov.
Tzafun – Eat the Afikoman:
1. The last item of food to be eaten at the Seder meal is a piece of Matzo called the Afikoman.
2. We use the piece of the broken middle Matzo that was put aside at the beginning of the Seder. Since this is usually not sufficient for everyone, the leader of the Seder should distribute to each person a small piece from this Matzo and supplement it with other Matzo to make the required quantity.
3. If possible, each person should eat 30 grams. If it is difficult, one may eat 15 grams.
4. There is no blessing recited for eating the Afikoman, but one should have in mind that
he is fulfilling the Mitzvah of eating the Afikoman.
5. A man should recline when eating the Afikoman.
6. If a man forgot to recline, he should eat another Afikoman if it is not too difficult.
However, if he already washed his hands for “Mayim Acharonim” he should not eat
another Afikoman.
7. An effort should be made to eat the Afikoman before Halachik midnight, which is at
1:21 A.M. for the year of 5775. Nevertheless, if this time passed, the Afikoman should
still be eaten.
8. If the Afikoman cannot be found, other Shmura Matzo should be eaten instead.
9. One may not eat anything else after the Afikoman. One may drink water if he is thirsty
after eating the Afikoman. After Birchas Hamazon one should preferably refrain from any other drinks, but in a case of great need one my drink tea, seltzer, apple juice, lemonade, or mildly flavored soda. Coffee should not be drunk. One should not smoke after the Afikoman as well
Barech – Saying the Birchas Hamazon:
1. The third cup of wine is poured before the Birchas Hamazon.
2. One should wash Mayim Acharonim before the Birchas Hamazon.
3. If there are three men present, the custom is for the head of the household to lead the
“Zimun.” If there is an important visitor, he may be given this honor.
4. If there is someone who led the Zimun, only he must hold the cup of wine during the
Birchas Hamazon. If there is no leader, then everyone should hold the cup of wine.
5. Men should recline when drinking the cup of wine after the Birchas Hamazon. If he
forgot, he need not drink another cup.
6. After drinking the third cup, the cups are refilled with wine. An extra cup, the cup of
Eliyahu, is filled.
7. The custom is for the leader of the Seder to fill the cup of Eliyahu. It should be a large
 and especially beautiful cup.
8. The door is opened and “Shfoch Chamascha” is recited standing.
9. Many have the custom to leave the full cup of Eliyahu covered on the table overnight
and use it for Kiddush on Yom Tov morning. Others pour it back into the bottle.
Hallel – Recite the Hallel:
1. Women are obligated to remain at the Seder for Hallel and the fourth cup of wine. Children aged five or six should be encouraged to do so if possible.
2. One should not recline during Hallel. Rather one should sit upright with awe and respect.
3. Iftherearethreepeoplepresent,includingone’swifeandchildren,theversesof“Hodo” and “Ana” should be said responsively, as is done in Shul. The leader of the Seder should recite these verses and the others should respond.
4. ThefourthcupofwineisdrunkattheconclusionoftheHallel.
5. Men should recline when drinking the fourth cup, and do not drink it again if they forgot
to recline.
6. Effortshouldbemadetodrink3ouncesofwineinordertorecitetheafterblessing.
7. The after blessing is recited by everyone who drank 3 ounces. When making the
blessing, one should have in mind that it also applies to all the other three cups of wine.
Nirtzah – The Seder is Accepted:
1. After the paragraph of “Chasal Siddur Pesach,” the final part of the Haggadah comprises songs of praise to Hashem. Since these songs were added later, a person who is exhausted is not obligated to say them.
2. Somepeoplehavethecustomtorecite“ShirHashirim”aftertheSeder.
3. Tonight is the only night of the year where it is a Mitzvah to remain awake as long as possible after the Seder and study the laws of Pesach and continue relating the miracles of the Exodus. [Shavuos is only a custom.] It would be preferred to stay up all night and pray Shacharis at sunrise. A person is exempt if he is overcome by sleep. Similarly, if he will not be able to pray Shacharis properly without a good night’s sleep, he may go to bed.
4. Before going to sleep, the custom is to recite only the first paragraph of the bed time
Shema and the blessing of “Hamapil.
Second Seder:
1. There are differences at the second Seder:
• All preparations for the second night of Yom Tov may not begin before nightfall,
which is at 8:30 PM for the year 5775.
• Please remember to insert Havdala in your Kiddush
• One may be lenient and only eat 15 grams for the first eating of Matzo.
Nevertheless, the leader of the Seder must eat 30 grams. A sick or elderly person
may be lenient and eat 10 grams of Matzo.
• Some have the custom to not hurry and eat the Afikoman before Halachik
midnight.
• One may have any non-intoxicating drinks after the Afikoman.
• One may retire to bed immediately after the Seder.

Reprinted from Rabbi Lebhar of Magen David Sephardic Congregation
Here we are, Shushan Purim, and what an amazing Purim it was in Magen David. We all came together as a community and were able to rejoice as one big family. I fervently hope that Purim also gave us inspiration to have an even stronger commitment to our Torah.
This week's parsha contains the unfortunate sin of the Golden Calf. We are taught about the famous incident when Moshe stood at the gate of the camp and called for volunteers to punish the people involved in this grievous sin: "Who is for G-d? Let them gather to me." The Torah testifies that "all the children of Levi gathered by him." [Shemot 32:26]
Moshe instructed them based on the word of Hashem: "Let each man put on his sword and go from one gate to the other in the camp. Let each one kill [all those involved in the idolatry], even his own brother, close friend, or relative" [Shemot 32:27].
This is the first of a series of times when the Tribe of Levi rose to the occasion, putting aside their own personal considerations of family and friends and heeding the call of G-d to punish the people who deserved punishment. At the end of the Torah, Moshe recognized the Tribe of Levi's actions saying, "He was the one who said of his father and mother, 'I do not see them', not recognizing brother or child. They thus kept Your word and safeguarded Your covenant. [Devarim 33:9]"
Once, Holy Tzaddik Hafetz Haim asked a young boy if he was a Kohen or a Levi. He responded in the negative. The Hafetz Haim (who was a Kohen) told his young guest that it was a real pity that he did not have that status. "Mashiach will soon come and the Kohanim and the Leviim will have a premiere function in the Beit HaMikdash. The rest of the Jewish people will all be excluded. It's a shame you are not from the Tribe of Levi. You will miss out on all of these holy privileges."
The Hafetz Haim then asked the boy a very strange question: "Why are you not a Kohen?"
The boy gave the obvious answer. His father was not a Kohen.
But the Hafetz Haim persisted, "Why wasn't your father a Kohen?"
By this time the boy grasped that the Hafetz Haim was leading to a concept that had nothing to do with Yichus [lineage] or genealogy. The Hafetz Haim asked, "Do you know why your father was NOT a Kohen and my father WAS a Kohen? Because there was once a time in Jewish history when our teacher Moshe called out 'Who is for G-d? Let them gather to me.' My great- great grandfather answered the call and your great-great grandfather did not answer the call. That is why my father was a Kohen and your father was not a Kohen."
The Hafetz Haim was not trying to tease, saying "Hah, hah! I am a Kohen and you are not a Kohen". The Hafetz Haim did not engage in teasing behavior. The Hafetz Haim was not trying to "rub in" the fact that The boys ancestor did not respond to Moshe's call. Rav Frand points out that the point that the Hafetz Haim was driving home was that sometimes there are an occasions in life where the clarion call goes out to rally around G-d's banner. If upon hearing that call, one rises to the occasion, his actions can have ramifications until the end of time. If one fails to heed the call and does not respond, that too can affect not only the person, but also his children and his grandchildren, for all generations.
The point that the Hafetz Haim was trying to teach is that one day he himself might receive such a call, perhaps not in the exact same words, but in a similar way. The Hafetz Haim was saying to remember this lesson, so that he would not repeat the mistake of his great-great grandfather -- with potential ramifications until the end of time.
This is the level of commitment that we all need to commit to.
Reprinted from Rabbi Lebhar of Magen David Sephardic Congregation
Here we are, Shushan Purim, and what an amazing Purim it was in Magen David. We all came together as a community and were able to rejoice as one big family. I fervently hope that Purim also gave us inspiration to have an even stronger commitment to our Torah.
This week's parsha contains the unfortunate sin of the Golden Calf. We are taught about the famous incident when Moshe stood at the gate of the camp and called for volunteers to punish the people involved in this grievous sin: "Who is for G-d? Let them gather to me." The Torah testifies that "all the children of Levi gathered by him." [Shemot 32:26]
Moshe instructed them based on the word of Hashem: "Let each man put on his sword and go from one gate to the other in the camp. Let each one kill [all those involved in the idolatry], even his own brother, close friend, or relative" [Shemot 32:27].
This is the first of a series of times when the Tribe of Levi rose to the occasion, putting aside their own personal considerations of family and friends and heeding the call of G-d to punish the people who deserved punishment. At the end of the Torah, Moshe recognized the Tribe of Levi's actions saying, "He was the one who said of his father and mother, 'I do not see them', not recognizing brother or child. They thus kept Your word and safeguarded Your covenant. [Devarim 33:9]"
Once, Holy Tzaddik Hafetz Haim asked a young boy if he was a Kohen or a Levi. He responded in the negative. The Hafetz Haim (who was a Kohen) told his young guest that it was a real pity that he did not have that status. "Mashiach will soon come and the Kohanim and the Leviim will have a premiere function in the Beit HaMikdash. The rest of the Jewish people will all be excluded. It's a shame you are not from the Tribe of Levi. You will miss out on all of these holy privileges."
The Hafetz Haim then asked the boy a very strange question: "Why are you not a Kohen?"
The boy gave the obvious answer. His father was not a Kohen.
But the Hafetz Haim persisted, "Why wasn't your father a Kohen?"
By this time the boy grasped that the Hafetz Haim was leading to a concept that had nothing to do with Yichus [lineage] or genealogy. The Hafetz Haim asked, "Do you know why your father was NOT a Kohen and my father WAS a Kohen? Because there was once a time in Jewish history when our teacher Moshe called out 'Who is for G-d? Let them gather to me.' My great- great grandfather answered the call and your great-great grandfather did not answer the call. That is why my father was a Kohen and your father was not a Kohen."
The Hafetz Haim was not trying to tease, saying "Hah, hah! I am a Kohen and you are not a Kohen". The Hafetz Haim did not engage in teasing behavior. The Hafetz Haim was not trying to "rub in" the fact that The boys ancestor did not respond to Moshe's call. Rav Frand points out that the point that the Hafetz Haim was driving home was that sometimes there are an occasions in life where the clarion call goes out to rally around G-d's banner. If upon hearing that call, one rises to the occasion, his actions can have ramifications until the end of time. If one fails to heed the call and does not respond, that too can affect not only the person, but also his children and his grandchildren, for all generations.
The point that the Hafetz Haim was trying to teach is that one day he himself might receive such a call, perhaps not in the exact same words, but in a similar way. The Hafetz Haim was saying to remember this lesson, so that he would not repeat the mistake of his great-great grandfather -- with potential ramifications until the end of time.
This is the level of commitment that we all need to commit to.
Halacha of the Week: Fast of the First Born on Erev Pesach
Reprinted from Aish Thornhill Community Shul by Rabbi Rothman
Who is considered a first born in regard to the Fast of the First Born (ta’anis bechorim) on erev Pesach?
Any first born male who is over thirty days old, whether first-born to his father or to his mother, is considered a bechor. A first-born of a kohen or a levi is considered like any other bechor in regard to this fast. A bechor born by cesarean section, or of a first-born non-Jew who converts is a matter of disagreement among the poskim. It is recommended that these bechorim participate in the siyum.
It is customary that a father fast for a young child and even should do so if his wife is pregnant with their first child.
Must the bechorim attending the siyum actually hear the Gemorah being completed? Must the bechorim eat at the siyum?
It has become customary for the bechorim to exempt themselves from fasting by participating in a siyum and eating what is served: The bechorim attend a siyum and listen as the tractate is completed. Food is then served and eaten by the participants.
If a bechor did not hear the tractate being completed because he came late, if he eats at the siyum then it is considered as if he fully participated.
Similarly, if one hears the siyum, but does not partake of the food being served he is, as well, considered as if he participated fully.
Obviously, in order to fulfill the requirements of all the poskim, one should l'chatchilah listen and understand the proceedings, and partake of the siyum meal. By only doing one of the two, it is not prefered, however, the person has fulfilled the requirement.
If you or someone you know has a disability and is under 50 years old, find out how the Government of Canada may help, even if you don’t have money to contribute.
RDSP information sessions will be held from 7pm-9pm at the following locations, on the specified dates below:
1. VAUGHAN on Thursday March 26th, 2015
136 Winges Rd, Unit #6, Woodbridge, ON L4L 6C3
2. MARKHAM on Monday April 13th, 2015
5694 Highway 7 East, Unit #13, Markham, ON L3P 0E3
3. RICHMOND HILLL on Wednesday May 20th, 2015
101 Edward Ave, Richmond Hill, ON L4C 5E5
Register today to find out more and to request accommodation!
TO RSVP, please CONTACT Sadia Shaukat at 905 884 9110 ext. 640 or via email at sshaukat@communitylivingyorksouth.ca
Mission: “Empower people with an intellectual disability to live, learn, work and participate in their community.”
All female ZUMBA class with Keri (neshamadancefit)
on Monday March 2, 2015
@DANI Centre @ 8:00 pm
501 Clark Ave West (west wing of Garnet Williams Community Centre)
Let's shake it off, dance and have fun!
Bring daughters, mothers and bubbies!!
Cost; $15.00-- class and smoothie (COR Chalav Yisroel)
RSVP by February 26; space is limited
www.dani-toronto.com
Mission Statement
....to create opportunities for young adults with physical and/ or cognitive challenges so that they can participate fully as valued members of the community and enjoy a meaningful and dignified quality of life....
Contrary to popular opinion, marriage is work, and work is good. We came to this world to perfect our character traits, and there is no other relationship more so than marriage to help you do that! It doesn't mean (G-d forbid) that you're married to the wrong person if you have issues or conflicts. It's only through challenge that we grow and perfect ourselves.
If anyone would like to sponsor a Thought of the Week, or add a friend to the email list, let me know.
These Shalom Bayit Thoughts are geared for the average couple, who has typical issues that are not "off the chart." If you are in a situation involving mental illness or abuse, please seek professional help.
When your husband is speaking, particularly if he is giving a d'var Torah, give him your full attention. Anything less communicates disinterest and disrespect. There is almost nothing as hurtful to a man as a wife who is not interested in his Torah thoughts.
If anyone would like to sponsor a Thought of the Week, or add a friend to the email list, let me know.
These Shalom Bayit Thoughts are geared for the average couple, who has typical issues that are not "off the chart." If you are in a situation involving mental illness or abuse, please seek professional help.
The home should be a sanctuary of holiness. Our job is to keep the boundaries strong around our home, making sure that negative influences don't enter. Think carefully about the books, media, technology, and influences that you allow inside. If your husband is not in agreement, have a serious heart-to-heart or get a third party involved.
If anyone would like to sponsor a Thought of the Week, or add a friend to the email list, let me know.
These Shalom Bayit Thoughts are geared for the average couple, who has typical issues that are not "off the chart." If you are in a situation involving mental illness or abuse, please seek professional help.
The ideal home should be a haven of tranquility, not stress. Each family member should feel warmth, security, acceptance and love. We want our husbands to feel that even if his boss yelled at him, or his project fell through, that at home he is loved and respected. This can be accomplished, even when you need to give constructive criticism.
If anyone would like to sponsor a Thought of the Week, or add a friend to the email list, let me know.
These Shalom Bayit Thoughts are geared for the average couple, who has typical issues that are not "off the chart." If you are in a situation involving mental illness or abuse, please seek professional help.
Jewish sources teach that the best prescription for good, healthy kids is a great marriage. Be careful not to speak disrespectfully to your husband, and try to generally present a united front to the kids. If you don't share a secret language with your husband, then make an effort to speak in private when you need to criticize. However, it is healthy for children to see that you can discuss issues respectfully without getting hostile.
These Shalom Bayit Thoughts are geared for the average couple, who has typical issues that are not "off the chart." If you are in a situation involving mental illness or abuse, please seek professional help.
I want to mention first and foremost that my shalom bayit pointers (and my classes) are directed at the average couple, who has normal issues that are not "off the chart". If you are in a situation involving mental illness or abuse, please seek professional help.
Rebbetzin Tehilla Abramov teaches: "A couple fits together in a complimentary way--where she is weak, he has strength for two, and vice versa." This attitude, based on a firm belief in the idea that our spouse is custom-made for us, helps us to have humility and compassion for the other.
A man who feels respected at home will be magnanimous and kind, whereas a man who feels demeaned will become tyrannical and petty. Or to put it differently, the more you make your husband feel like the man, the less he needs to go stomping around the house asserting his manhood!
Practical exercise: think of one way in which you could convey respect to your husband.
It says in Mishlei: "The wisdom of a woman builds her home; and her wickedness destroys it." Often in shalom bayit, the direct approach can backfire. Using subtlety to finesse the situation, without diminishing your husband, is preferable.
We learn this from Ohn ben Peles's wife. Ohn was a key supporter of Korach, who led a rebellion against Moshe Rabbeinu (Moses). Ohn's wife knew it would backfire if she told her husband how dumb his decision to follow Korach was, so instead she got him drunk so that he passed out, and then she went outside her tent and brushed out her hair. When Korach and the others came to get her husband, they saw her and would not approach the tent (because her hair was uncovered). This way, she preserved her husband's dignity, and yet got the result she wanted. The next day, when G-d caused Korach & co. to get swallowed up by the earth, I'm sure Ohn thanked his wife profusely!
Practical tip: think creatively about what the best method of achieving your aims are.
Happening this Thursday, December 25th, 2014, 8:00pm at the home of the Friedman's
Please join us for an evening of achdus and inspiration as we honour the kedoshim who died al kiddush Hashem in Har Nof. The widows have asked that Jewish women all over the world come together on the second night of Channukah to, with Hashem's help, kindle the light of geula for Klal Yisrael. There will be words of chizuk by Mrs. Adina Ribacoff, principal of Tiferes Bais Yaakov, Tehillim, a video of the event that took place in Yerushalayim, with inspiring messages from Reggetzin Tzipporah Heller, Mrs. Chaya Levine (wife of R' Kalman Levine HY'D) and Mrs. Rachelli Frankel (mother of Naftali Frankel Hy"D). $5 entrance fee goes to the families of the victims.
*This article originally appeared on the website of COR – Kashruth Council of Canada – www.cor.ca
In Toronto, when you think ‘kosher retirement home’, think ‘all-inclusive resort’.
Residents of Kensington Place, a kosher retirement home certified by COR, experience an all-inclusive lifestyle which includes gourmet kosher meals served daily, spacious upscale suites, daily activities to suit a variety of interests and a comfortable, homey Shabbos experience.
Located just west of Bathurst and Sheppard, Kensington Place is one of four kosher retirement homes in Toronto certified by COR, which includes Terrace Gardens, and the Terraces of Baycrest.
“These retirement homes are doing a tremendous service by becoming kosher-certified. We need it as a community,” said Rabbi Tsvi Heber, Director of Community Kosher at COR.
Kensington Place, which has been owned by Baybridge Senior Living since 2013, offers two main services to accommodate its seniors. There is an Independent Lifestyle option for independent seniors, and an Assisted Living option for those who require assistance. The Assisted Living option provides full care such as medication management, bathing and dressing, which is delivered in the privacy of one’s own suite. The facility also offers a trial stay program and a program for respite stays.
The almost 90 residents at Kensington Place, a number of whom arrive at the facility with their spouses, share similar interests and life experiences and make up a close-knit community.
“Most of the residents grew up in this area so a lot of them knew each other prior to moving in,” said Joyce Welygan, General Manager of Kensington Place.
The residents contribute greatly to the home’s heimish Jewish atmosphere.
“A lot of our programming is Jewish-based,” said Welygan. “We try to maintain a strong Jewish
connection in the building.”
For Shabbat, there is candle-lighting and Shabbat services in the sanctuary with Torah reading, and for the High Holidays, a cantor is brought in to conduct the services. Moreover, every Passover, family members of the residents are encouraged to join their families for a Seder at the facility.
Additionally, a number of Rabbis visit on a regular basis to teach and interact with the residents.
According to Linda Tittel, Regional Director of Sales and Marketing at Baybridge Senior Living, residents appreciate the wide variety of services and amenities offered by Kensington Place.
“People love living here,” said Tittel. “Location is number one, as the residents have a lot of family and friends in the area. Most of the residents come from the surrounding 5 km area. We make life easy for seniors by providing all their meals and housekeeping. The feedback we receive from the residents is that they love the way we honour Jewish customs.”
Moshe Oziel, food service manager at Kensington Place, whips up a delectable selection of meal options for the residents, including staples such as brisket, cabbage rolls and perogies.
“We try to hit home with all of the food that the residents are used to culturally. The residents are familiar with homestyle cooking and that’s what they appreciate when they come here,” said Oziel. “Also, we are sensitive to peoples’ needs – if someone is lactose intolerant or diabetic, we do our best to make sure that everyone feels as welcome and satisfied as possible,” said Oziel.
For the residents who like to keep busy, Kensington Place has an activity director who regularly implements new and innovative programs to keep the seniors healthy and active. Offerings include brain training seminars, fitness classes, knitting and piano classes, among others.
Family is of utmost importance at Kensington Place, and the residents are encouraged to have regular visits with family members.
“We have close connections with the families of the residents and we encourage families to come in and be a part of Kensington all the time,” said Welygan. “Also, Sunday is family day for the residents – all family is invited. We have live entertainment along with coffee, tea and snacks.”
For those who are interested in visiting Kensington Place, the home holds events on a monthly basis that are open to the public. Also, if arranged by phone in advance, prospective residents can visit with their families on a weekday and have lunch, plus receive a tour of the facility.
While Toronto weather certainly doesn’t compare to Miami, when you are inside the walls of Kensington Place or any of the other kosher retirement homes certified by COR, it still feels like vacation.
Catering to the growing kosher northern Toronto community, Magen Meats opens its doors. TORONTO, ONTARIO - December 2, 2014 - Seeking the convenience of affordable "one stop shopping," busy professionals and young families in Toronto's kosher-observant community often turn to supermarkets to purchase their meat and poultry. But others seek out affordable alternatives, local kosher butcher shops that provide quality products to customers with discerning palates and a passion for fresh and flavourful yet affordable fare. Home to one of the world's fastest growing Jewish communities outside of Israel, York Region boasts both grocery stores and butcher shops that aim to fulfill meat lovers' needs. Located at 1118 Centre Street between Dufferin and Bathurst, Magen Meats is the newest butcher shop to join the ranks and cater to growing young kosher communities in Thornhill, Thornhill Woods and Richmond Hill. Managing Director of the Kashruth Council of Canada, Richard Rabkin explains that, "due to high housing costs, Toronto's Jewish community is growing northwards. Sustainable Jewish communities need infrastructure, and that includes kosher grocers and butchers. We're happy that Magen Meats will help meet the needs of this expanding young community." Royi Flescher - Manager of Magen Meats - says, "We want to give the kosher community up north a new upscale butcher experience offering affordable gourmet fare." Locals will have access to an impressive range of products, from fresh or frozen breaded schnitzel, semi-boneless chicken and stuffed chicken legs to seasoned beef ribs, shish kebob and homemade sausages. Customers can choose their preferred cut, specify their desired quantity to the tee, have orders vacuum sealed in advance, and take advantage of Magen Meat's seasoned and marinated poultry and meat selections. A rabbi with years of experience in the Kashruth industry, Flescher shared another incentive behind the idea of the shop: "We want to make kosher meat more convenient and provide our customers with an extensive high quality selection at great value. In doing so, we have the opportunity to make it more accessible and appealing -- and less cost-prohibitive -- to the segment of Jews who don't strictly keep Kosher or who frequent 'kosher style' establishments." Head of the Jewish Russian Community Centre, Rabbi Yoseph Zaltzman expressed his support of the new shop, explaining that "north of Steeles, there's a community of over 80K Jews. I'm pleased to hear that Magen Meats will be making affordable, fresh and prepared kosher meats even more accessible not only to those in the area who already keep kosher, but also to those who haven't yet fully committed to doing so due to concerns about cost, quality or selection." Along with its gourmet fresh fare, Magen Meats aims to deliver an "old style" butcher experience, where customers can expect a warm greeting and service from a knowledgeable staff. More than merely processing basic orders, their butchers offer customers advice on how to expertly prepare and cook the meats they purchase. A mother of a young Thornhill Woods family, Danielle Steinman didn't grow up eating kosher. Now that she keeps a kosher kitchen, she comments that "living in the '905' area, I really appreciate having access to an affordable high quality meat shop so close to home. My husband was so excited to pop into Magen Meats when we heard it was opening and see far more than just the standard chicken breasts and thighs, steak and ground beef you typically find at kosher grocers." The COR's Rabkin says that "it's a victory for everyone whenever a kosher establishment can provide products that are attractive to people who don't exclusively eat kosher food and are on the fence as to whether or not to choose kosher." For more information, visit www.magenmeats.ca or contact the following: Jim Bensimon, Owner of iRise Media - 416-840-7749 Ext. 233 - jb@irisemedia.com Rabbi Royi Flescher, Manager of Magen Meats - 905-731-6328
We are all still shocked by the terrible tragedy in the Bnei Torah Shul in Har Nof. There were 5 deaths: Rabbi Aryeh Kupinsky, Rabbi Avraham Shmuel Goldberg, Rabbi Kalman Levine, Rabbi Moshe Twersky and Officer Zidan Saif. There were also a total of 10 injured, 5 of whom were seriously injured. Please continue to daaven for those who were seriously injured and need a Refuah Shlaimah: Shmuel Yerucham ben Baila, Eitan ben Sara, Avraham Shmuel ben Shaina, and Aryeh ben Bracha.
Many shuls, organizations, and individuals are collecting money to send to their families. If you would like to donate towards the Har Nof funds, contact your Shul for further information. Besoros Tovos.
In light of the tragic and frightening events
in Israel and all over the world,
the Rabbanim SHLIT"A
of the city have requested that everyone,
men and women, attend a
Kinus Tefilla Tehillim and Divrei Hisorrerus
Thursday, November 20
15 Saranac Blvd.
Starting with Maariv at 8:00 pm
Please bring a seifer tehilim.
Important Numbers
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