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# 3058 A Drinking Problem?
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Q. I'm a Yeshiva Bachur (after high school), staying in the Yeshiva for Purim. If my mother asked me not to drink any alcohol during the Purim seuda, do I have to listen to her?
A. Halichos Shlomo (19: 25) maintains that one should listen to one's parents and not drink.
Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that, you should drink a small shiur (amount, such as rov kos - or most of a small cup) of weak or diluted wine, to comply with the mitzva of drinking wine by the seuda.
(Provided that you are of age and healthy).
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Posted 2/22/2021 10:46 PM |
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# 3057 A Child Bonus
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Q. Can one give on Purim a few dollars as matanot laevyonim (gifts to the needy), to a child from a family that lost their jobs during the Covid pandemic? Does one have to inform the parents? Is it proper to do so?
A. Aruch Hasulchan (694: 2) and Kaf Hachaim (ibid. 12) maintain that one complies if the youngsters understand why are they given that money on Purim. However, Kovetz Halochos (16: 16) asserts that even if they don't know why, one still abides with the mitzva.
Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that on small amounts it is proper to give to them, even if they don't understand why it is being given and one does not have to tell the parents. However, one must check that they are old enough not to loose the money given to them.
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Posted 2/22/2021 10:42 PM |
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# 3056 Change One's Tune
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Q. Kvod Harav, In the Shul where I daven (and several other places), during the Chazaras Hashatz sometimes there are people who sing along the words of Shmonei Eisrei along with the Chazan. When I am Davening for the Amud, I find this very disturbing to my concentration.
I'm sure they mean well and are trying to harmonize the Shmonei Eisrei.... Since it disrupts my concentration should I politely tell people afterwards not to sing along words of Shmonei Eisrei with me? Is there anything wrong with saying some words along with the Chazan in Shmonei Esrei? What's the Eitza?
A. Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that even without the proscribed disturbing of your concentration, people singing along the words of Shmonei Eisrei along with the Chazan should be avoided, as they as well as others present, should be listening to the words of the Baal Tefila and their singing words may not permit it.
You should better ask the Rabbi, if present, to tell them to avert it. In some instances, as when reciting Halel, it may also be a hefsek or interruption.
Saying or singing the words is different from the usual and commendable singing of the nigunim together with the Chazan on the desired locations.
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Posted 2/22/2021 11:49 AM |
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# 3055 The Real Spirit of Purim
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Q. I heard that Horav Miller advised this year due to the recommended health restrictions to avoid making large Purim seudos and parties. How about inviting people that don't have where to eat their seuda and would end up eating it alone?
A. Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that in such cases, it is important to help those individuals and that is the real spirit of Purim.
However, one must also keep the necessary social distancing and other important health conditions such as washing and disinfecting hands, and when applicable also plastic separators.
(See question 2868 regarding having guests for Sukos, especially for the ones that don’t have access to a Suka).
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Posted 2/21/2021 9:57 PM |
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# 3054 First Come First Served?
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Q. See above question (3053). Which of the two mitzvos mentioned (gifts to the poor and shalach manos) should one do first on Purim?
A. Although the posuk mentions Mishloach Manos before Matonos Laevyonim, (Esther ). Shulchan Aruch presents the mitzva of Gifts to the Poor on (694: 1) before Shalach Manos (695: 4). (See Likutei Mahariach and Kaf Hachaim).
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Posted 2/21/2021 9:51 PM |
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# 3053 Be Right on the Money
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Q. It says to spend more money on matanos laevyonim than on the other mitzvos of Purim. However, if there are many people that I owe to them hakaras hatov (giving thanks for favors received), and I feel obligated to give them mishloach manos as an expression of my hakaras hatov, would doing so take precedence over giving more money to matanos laevynonim?
A. Mishna Berura (694: 3) indeed rules that it is preferable to augment and increase the gifts to the poor over the Shalach Monos givings. since there is no greater joy and exquisite simcha as bringing happiness to the needy and destitute.
However, Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that both mitzvos of Purim are most important and essential.
Since there are many variables and changing factors on each case, it requires common sense to establish the correct equilibrium between these two basic obligations.
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Posted 2/21/2021 9:41 PM |
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# 3052 The Gift of Gift Giving
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Q. This year (5781 - 2021) Purim will be on Friday. Because of the proximity to Shabbat and also the early seuda, should one comply with Shalach Manot on the night before? Can one take them to a shul before Tefilah and leave them there for the intended people when they arrive?
A. One should not deliver Shalach Monos on the night before, as it is a day mitzva (Rema 695: 4).
Mishna Berura (692: 1) quoting Mogen Avrohom maintains that the Shecheheyanu recited before the day Megila reading applies to Shalach Monos also. Therefore, Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that one should not deliver them before reading the Megila.
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Posted 2/18/2021 10:42 PM |
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# 3051 On Noon
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Q. This year (5781 - 2021) Purim will be on Friday. Because of the proximity to Shabbat should one start and also end the seudah (feast) of Purim before chatzot (midday)?
A. Rema (O.H. 695: 2) writes that when Purim is on Friday the seuda should be done in the morning due to the honor we are to give to Shabbos. Mishna Berura (10) explains that it means before chatzos. However, it is only lechatchila (preferable).
As far as finishing before chatzos, Horav Shlomo Miller Shlit'a pointed to the Maharil's ruling that it is not required.
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Posted 2/18/2021 10:30 PM |
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# 3050 Code of Silence
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Q. I have a shaila regarding an elderly mute person that is ill and can't come to shul. Until now someone read the megilah for him reciting the bracha 'lishmoa mikra megilah, as women do, since he is unable to read it himself. I was wondering since he has an electronic voice maker that he places by his throat and can thus speak a few words that make sense. Can the normal bracha for men 'al mikra megilah' be recited for him?
A. Indeed Shaagas Aryeh (6) rules that a mute is obliged on listening to the Megila. However Ridbaz (3: 867) maintains he is exempt as the blind are from the reading of the Torah. P'ri Megodim ( M'Z 285: 2) mentions that even according to the Ridbaz, he may be liable to hear the Megila as women do, and the brocho will be the same as them lishmoa mikra megila.
On question 1593 Horav Shlomo Miller’s Shlit’a opinion is that since without the external artificial vibrations, the mute would not be able to create by his own any speech, the words that he can now articulate are not valid in Halacha. Therefore, he would still need to hear the speech-involving mitzvos from others, and comply by being shomea keoneh.
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Posted 2/18/2021 10:00 PM |
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# 3049 Let The Happy Times Begin
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Q. This year (5781 - 2021) the first day of Rosh Chodesh Adar will be'H be on Friday. Does Mishenichas Adar Marbim Besimcha, with all the segulot begin already on Friday since after all it is still the last day od Shevat. This makes a difference in my case for signing an investment contract that has risks and can use all the great mazal of Chodesh Adar.
A. On question 1634 we mentioned that Adar is a time when good mazal prevails, so it is a propitious period to begin new shiurim, establish new mitzva projects, and other endeavors whose success will bring joy. (See question 990 regarding new business ventures).
Indeed, on the first day of Rosh Chodesh Adar the date written on a Halacha official document such as a Get, would be; 'The thirtieth day of the month of Shvat, which corresponds to Rosh Chodesh Adar.'
Nevertheless, Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that it is already included on the auspicious and fortunate good mazal of Chodesh Adar.
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Posted 2/16/2021 4:41 PM |
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# 3048 Keeping Holy the Holy
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Q. I was teaching Maseches Yodayim to a Talmid and we learned about the Halacha that touching Kisvei HaKodesh is M'tamei es HaYodayim. (When touching Holy Scripts. one's hands will become impure and will require washing).
The boy asked: If one is eating the Purim Seuda and a shaila is raised regarding what is written in the Megilla, and a kosher Megilla is brought to be examined, must those who touched the Megilla wash their hands again before handling bread?
I replied that I did not know, because there seems to be a contradiction in this issue between two places in Bi'ur Halacha [Siman 164:2 where he rules against the Chayei Odom who requires it; Siman 475:1 where he seems to rule like the Shibolei HaLeket that requires it]. The Chazon Ish (Yodayim 7:11) rules that one is not required.
Could Rav Miller make a ruling on this issue?
A. Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that if one touched a kosher Megila during a seuda, one should lechatchila (on the onset) wash hands again without a brocho.
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Posted 2/16/2021 4:32 PM |
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# 3047 Hold the Phone!
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Q. Someone who has to read the Megila for his wife or others in need, such as the elderly or ill that can't come to shul. If he is not well versed in the reading of the Megila and therefore is likely to make mistakes that may be essential to compliance, as when they change the meaning of the words, could he ask a friend who knows how to read well, to read it for him slowly on his phone, while he listens through an earphone and then repeats it loudly reading it from a kosher Megila?
A. Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that it is permitted, but should be done slowly, so he can hear first and then repeat and read from the Megila aloud.
The Rov suggested that this method should be used also if needed, on the prior question of a woman reading for others, since it likely, that due to the lack of prior reading experience mistakes will be done.
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Posted 2/14/2021 4:37 PM |
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# 3046 The More The Better?
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Q. (Se above questions) Is there an inyan (importance and significance) for women to attend shul on Purim to listen to the Megila, or could they just the same arrange the reading at home, that would be very significant in these pandemic days?
A. The need for all to attend shul for Megila reading is based on the mitzva of 'Berov Am Hadrass Melech' or the King is honored when many attend, as mentioned in Shulchan Aruch (O.H. 690: 18). From Mishna Berura (689: 1) would seem that there is no obligation for women to attend shul to listen to the reading of the Megila as there is for men. Therefore Mishna Berura (ibid. 17) rules that it is better for them to stay home and take care of the young children, who may otherwise disturb others if they attend shul.
However, some Poskim disagree and they maintain that women are also included in the mitzva of 'Berov Am Hadrass Melech,' and should attend shul when keeping proper conditions. (Mishne Halochos 4: 82. Olas Reiya 83, See Piskei Teshuvos 689: 1).
Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that on normal times it is indeed better for women to attend, not necessarily so in our Covid days.
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Posted 2/12/2021 4:02 PM |
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# 3045 How Many is Many
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Q. Re- question 3044 above on arranging a group of women and having one read the Megila for the others. You mentioned that is is improper to have a woman read the Megila for many women. How many is many?
A. Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that definitely ten or a minyan would be considered many.
However, even three are also a 'rabim' or multitude in regard to tumah (impurity), therefore when possible should be avoided.
The Rov maintains that in need, when otherwise the women would not hear the Megila at all, as mentioned before, it is permitted.
A similar opinion is to be found in Chasukei Chemed (Megila 4a), and he maintains that three is also a 'rabim' as is the case on the zimum prelude to benching, which is the source of the opinion of the Korban Nessanel quoted by the Shaarei Tzion. He also asserts that when in need, one woman can read for many.
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Posted 2/12/2021 3:57 PM |
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# 3044 Women Read On
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Q. This particular year, while we may still be in a partial lock-down, it is very likely that the amounts of people allowed for Megila reading is going to be restricted. This would affect specially women since they were not present in many shuln from the beginning of the pandemic. Some have suggested that women make their own minyan at a more convenient time for them. Since it is sometimes difficult to find one man who can read the Megila for them, could a woman that has learned how to do it read for that group of only women?
A. Shulchan Aruch (O.H. 689: 1) rules that women are obliged to read or hear the Megila on Purim. Mishna Berura (1) explains that although, it is a mitzva that has an appointed set time and women are usually exempt from them, since they were part of the miracle and the salvation, they are also included in the obligation of complying with the reading.
Remah (ibid) mentions that is a woman reads the Megila for herself, she should recite the brocho of Lishmoa Megila or to hear the Megila since some Poskim maintain that they are only obliged on listening to it and not reading it. Mishna Berura (7) adds that she should therefore not read for a man, but she can read for another woman. Shaar Hatzion (ibid 15) quotes Korban Nessanel, that a woman should not read to many others, since it is considered inappropriate.
Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that in need, if that is the only option available it can be done. (See next questions).
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Posted 2/11/2021 11:21 PM |
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# 3043 A Hot Spot
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Q. Can one tell his Rov that he has a stain in his clothing or is it denigrating his honor?
A. Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that it can be done privately and in a honorable, proper and careful way.
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Posted 2/11/2021 11:13 PM |
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# 3042 A Grave Gravestone?
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Q. If a matzeiva can't be placed on time for the yohrzait due to the current crisis issues and will only be ready about three months later, can the family meantime just place a large heavy concrete slab or block with a nicely painted name?
A. When placing a matzeiva one has to be concerned with avoiding committing degrading or debasing variations from what is a normal monument in that section of the cemetery. This act is included in the prohibition of 'Loeg L'rosh' or shaming the poor and unfortunate.
Besides, it is likely to be illegal, in regard to the conditions of burial contracted with the managers of the cemetery.
Therefore, Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that it is better to wait until the proper matzeiva can be installed,
The Rov added that there are different minhogim and traditions as to when to erect the matzeiva. It is not unusual to have to wait sometimes longer that a year.
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Posted 2/11/2021 11:07 PM |
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# 3041 Rice to the Challenge
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Q. What bracha does one make on brown rice
A. On question 3025 regarding brocho on rice we wrote that eating cooked/roasted whole wheat or a barley kernel means the complete grain including the bran shell, as it comes out from the husk and at that stage the brocho would be Boreh P'ri H'adomah. The same would apply to rice in a similar presentation.
Vesos Habracha (p. 138 n. 8) writes that raw rice or roasted rice kernels the brocho is adomoh,
However, he adds quoting Horav Eliashiv zt'l, that cooked brown rice, is similar to white rice, since only a bit more of the shell has not been removed.
Halochos of Brochos (addendum 4, pg 518) explains that brown rice is processed in the same way as white rice except that white rice is rubbed more. Birur Halacha (18: 4) writes that what we commonly view today as whole grain brown rice is actually what the Mishna Berura calls regular (white) rice and the brocho is mezonos. He also quotes Horav Moshe Shternbuch Shlit'a who agrees that the Bracha is Mezonos.
Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that it is better to recite a mezonos and a hoadama brocho on something else, when eating white or brown whole rice.
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Posted 2/11/2021 10:51 PM |
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# 3040 An Honest Mistake
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Q. You mentioned (question 3038) that if one is engaged in the mitzva of Hatzalat Nefashot (saving lives) and mistakenly, without any irresponsible oversight, remiss or negligence, and due to reasons beyond one's control causes the demise of the patient one is trying to save, he/she is not held responsible and liable to galut (exile) as a rotzeach beshogeg, (one who accidentally kills another person) is, does that apply to other mitzvos too?
A. Indeed it does, but it also depends on the situation and other factors that can affect the outcome.
About 15 years ago a Monsey butcher was accused of selling non-kosher chicken as kosher, leading unsuspecting shoppers to commit a grave sin by ingesting meat that is metameh or makes one's neshama and mind impure. Some buyers were elderly Holocaust survivors, that even during the war starved and refused to eat treif meat, they were now very stricken and affected. Rabbonim at the time tried to placate and calm them by expressing that if they were tricked and did not have to suspect anything, the ruach hatumah or spirit of impurity is not created and does not affect them. This is based on the Ponim Meiros responsa (2: 41) that compares it to a Korban Pesach that was permissibly shechted on Shabbos (as will be with Hashem's help this year) and when eviscerated it turned out to be treif. The rule is (Peshachim) that although the owner did not comply with the mitzva of Korban Pesach, he also did not desecrate Shabbos and does not have to bring a Korban Chatos since it was eaten, as you pointed out, without any irresponsible oversight, remiss or negligence.
Just to mention another case. Chelkas Yaakov (O.H. 16) addresses the shaila of someone acquiring a very good pair of tefilin from a respectable and known soffer. After over three years, when they are checked, they found that one parsha of the Shel Rosh (the head tefilin) was missing. He rules that the wearer is not considered responsible, since he followed all necessary requirements.
When I questioned Horav Shlomo Miller Shlit'a if the principle of 'Choshav odom laasos mitzva,' If a person was planing to perform a mitzva and by accident or force majeure was unable to carry it out, it is considered as he actually complied with it. (Kidushin 40a), the Rov replied that it is so indeed, and would apply also to one trying to save lives, as in the question above.
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Posted 2/11/2021 10:37 PM |
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# 3039 Aiding a Hearing Aid
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Q. If an expensive hearing aid falls out and breaks on Shabbos,(one stept on it) can one pick it up? What should be done with it, whether inside or outside of the Eruv?
A. Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that it is muktza and should not be touched. Although, 'tiltul min hatza'ad' or indirect and unusual handling is some times permitted. See question 1770 regarding removal of a spider by having it climb a large piece of paper or cardboard, where it is not trapped and then promptly throwing it outside. However, in this particular case it is for the need of saving the muktza object and it is not permitted.
If the hearing aid landed outside where there is no Eruv, and it involves a significant loss, one may push it with the shoe, less than four amos (about two meters) at the time, until one finds a place in the street where it may stay hidden and protected until the end of Shabbos.
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Posted 2/11/2021 10:23 PM |
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