1) It is two days until Yom Kippur, and the order of the day, of
course, is Teshuva. We all want Hashem to forgive us for any sins we may have
transgressed against Him or against our fellow Jews. As we mentioned a few days
ago, sins against our fellow Jews cannot be forgiven by Hashem until forgiveness
is sought from the one who we offended. When forgiving someone, it is extremely
important to verbalize this fact by saying "I am Mochel you with my whole
heart". (Rabbeinu Bechaya explains that Yosef was Mochel
the Shevatim, but never verbalized this thought, thus the Asara Harugei Malchus
and many other Tzaros needed to befall Klal Yisroel over the ages. There is a
lengthy discussion about this, but this forum is not the place)
2) After receiving forgiveness from the people
that we hurt, there are still 24 things (Brought by
Rabbeinu Yonah in Sharei Teshuva, end of Shaar Rishon in the name of Chazal.
They can also be found more at length in the Rambam Perek 4 of Hilchos Teshuva.
The original source for this seems to be a Tosefta) that are
Me’Akev - that prevent- proper Teshuva from being attained. Obviously it is best
to try and make sure that we don’t have any of these impediments in our day to
day lives, so we can assure that our Teshuva is easily attained and properly
accepted by Hashem.
Most of these things are probably not
relevant to most of the people reading this, but it is still Halacha, and can be
used as a catalyst for Teshuva in the area in which we do indeed need
rectification, so I will write them.
The 24 obstacles to Teshuva are: (Loose translation. It would be too lengthy to delve into the
details of each one. If you have any questions as to the definitions, or details
of each one, please feel free to Contact me)
1) One who frequently
spreads Rechilus (slanderer) 2) One who regularly
speaks Lashon Hara (Gossiper) 3) One who gets angry
quickly 4) One whose bad (impure) thoughts control him 5) Being
connected to a rasha (evildoer) 6) Taking from food that isn’t
sufficient for its owner 7) Gazing at Arayos (members of the
opposite gender, etc.with sinful intent) 8) Partnering with a
thief 9) One who says "I will sin and repent afterwards" or " I will sin
and Yom Kippur will atone for the sin" 10) One who derives honor
[and pleasure] from his fellow man’s humiliation. 11) One who
separates him/herself from the Tzibbur (congregation). 12)
One who ridicules his forefathers and/or teachers 13) One who curses the
public 14) One who prevents a group of people from doing a Mitzvah 15)
One who causes another Jew to leave the good path and take a bad path
[of living not according to the Torah] 16) One who uses the pillow
of a poor person [i.e. causes a poor person to lose the use of any of
his meager possessions] 17) One who accepts bribes in order to skew
and distort justice from prevailing. 18) One who finds a lost object and
doesn’t [try and] return it to its proper owner. 19) One who sees their
child going off the [Torah] path, and doesn’t admonish them. 20) One who
eats [i.e. usurps] the food [i.e. livelihood]
of poor people, orphans or widows. 21) One who argues [and does an
action] against the will of the sages. 22) One who accuses good
people of doing wrong [without proper proof or reason] 23)
One who hates [and cannot accept constructive]
criticism. 24) One who ridicules all or some of the Mitzvos of the
Torah [or those instituted by the
sages]
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