When you're not sure what to do in a particular parenting moment, don't do anything. You can say something like, "I am going to think about this and get back to you." Then you can consult your books, your spouse and/or your advisers, or you can just take some time to actually think about it. There are very few true emergencies that require an immediate response. A good response is better than a fast one.
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