Anger is a feeling - not a discipline tool. First settle your feeling, and THEN, come back to educate your child. Use any educational tool that may be appropriate including teaching, explaining, demonstrating, illustrating, role-playing, applying negative consequences and/or creating rules. As our sages say, "The words of the wise are heard when calmly spoken." The only thing you teach when you yell, is how to yell.
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