Home, contrary to public opinion, is not where you can be yourself - unless, of course, your "self" is utterly delightful. If it isn't, then home is a place where you can pretend to be what you wish you really were - patient, loving, sensitive, understanding, respectful and so on. "Fake it, till you make it" is a perfectly fine strategy; act AS IF you are delightful. Practice every evening - when the kids walk in the door, when it's homework time, at the dinner table, during the bedtime routine and right up until the time you tuck yourself in bed. As with anything, practice makes perfect - keep it up and you'll find one day that "delightful" is the new you!