If you want to know how your child feels when you raise your voice, try to remember exactly how YOU felt when your mother or father spoke loudly to you. The best way to do this is to sit still for a minute, close your eyes, and bring to mind a time when either parent shouted at you. Watch the scene as if you are watching a movie, seeing both the young you and your parents. Now, use your "x-ray vision" to peer right inside the heart and mind of your younger self so that you can really see the thoughts and feelings that are happening in that moment. Now, "fix" the movie by having your parent educate you in a more respectful and kinder way. See how your younger self feels then. Now, which way do you want to do it with your own child?
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