Some children are more self-conscious than others. This can manifest in different ways. Some don't like to be the center of attention, some may be uncomfortable being praised or complimented in front of others, and some may not want to eat in front of others. Although self-consciousness tends to be an inborn trait, it can be modified through certain interventions. Criticism isn't one of them however; we can't just "tell" a child not to be self-conscious! We can give the child drama classes, voice and/or musical training, public speaking classes and other opportunities to improve confidence in public through training and exposure. Bach Flower Remedies like "cerato" (for self-consciousness) and "mimulus" (for fear and shyness) may also be helpful. Therapy for self-conscious teens can fast-track improvement whereas doing nothing at all can seriously delay the development of social self-confidence.While encouragement, training and support are all helpful, acceptance and understanding are most important. One can help a child develop skills while simultaneously showing compassion and acceptance of her essential nature. Refraining from showing disapproval or judgment actually increases her comfort and self-acceptance.
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