Whatever you pay attention to, you will see more of. The more you comment on a child's problem behaviors, the more you'll see of them. The more you comment on his appropriate behaviors, the more you'll see of those. (It works the same for spouses.). Pay attention to the words you speak during the day - are you mostly acknowledging the good behaviors that are happening throughout each day - or are you doing something else? And how is that working for you?
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