Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1 It is important to NOT ask for information from anybody who dislikes the person you are asking about. Likewise, do not ask a business person for information about his/her competitors. In such cases, the reply will usually contain outright lies or distortions of the truth. Lesson 2 The prohibition against speaking and hearing lashon hora also applies to relatives. For example, asking out of curiosity how one’s child or cousin is doing in school just for the sake of curiosity can elicit lashon hora. Again, seeking information about someone is permitted only when its for a constructive purpose.
Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE
Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE