Lesson 1

the chofetz chaim said that regarding a shidduch (marriage partner) people speak when they should be quiet and hold back when they should speak. since we all will be called upon at any time to divulge information about someone for marriage purposes, we must learn what we can and cannot say, what kind of information we can ask for, and when and how to convey that information.things that you may be obligated to say before someone starts dating can be completely prohibited to say after they are dating for a while.

Lesson 2

When you are asked for information about an individual for relationship purposes, be sensitive to the power wielded by every detail conveyed. your words can easily be the sole reason a shidduch is abandoned. also, withholding certain information can be the sole reason a shiduch proceeds which can cause tremendous pain for all involved. These are important things to think about in how we specifically speak with official shiduch inquiries, but also when a friend tells you someone was suggested or that they are dating someone - what could be the first impact of your response when you say "ugh" or "seriously" or say something even specific. Do we think before we have these reactions? do we know what can happen when we react or give information?

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Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE
Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE
About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora - Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member (spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews, Entire Jewish Nation