Please Say/Whisper the Words out Loud
Lesson 1 - Speaking ABOUT People
We mentioned that downplaying a compliment can be considered lashon hora as it causes shame. Another example - A respected Rabbi comes from England to America. When you speak to your relatives from England you mention: "It’s so interesting. Here in America, nobody makes such a fuss over him".
Lesson 2 - Speaking TO People
A main reason why people insult others is because they lack the knowledge of alternative ways of communicating their displeasure with someones behavior. Its easier to insult them. We should think about our goal though? Aren’t we trying to influence the person to change? There are many positive techniques to do this that will accomplish more than insults.
(Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE)