Lesson 1

A simcha (weddings, bar mitzvah, kiddush etc) is such a beautiful occasion. It really is a shame to ruin it by talking lashon hora (reporting things about other people that are TRUE). Ex.: "The musicians didn’t play well" "the caterer gave such skimpy portions" "The hall was too small, i couldn’t dance".

 

Lesson 2

Strategies to avoid talking negatively about a hall, caterer, MC - avoid questions and conversations that can cause lashon hora to be spoken. Don’t ask "how did the bride’s mom look?" or "were you impressed with the food". (Again - if you need some information for a constructive purpose - i.e. to plan your own simcha, the rules of constructive speaking apply).

 

*(Lessons taken from Purity of Speech by C.T. Friedman)