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I want to clarify two Halachos, on which I have been receiving a lot of questions via email:
1) We learned this past Thursday, October 29 (see archives here)
There is no obligation to hold the Besamim in your hands while the Bracha is recited; the Bracha may be recited with the Besamim on the table ready to be smelled. (See Biur Halacha Siman 216:12 Dibur Hamaschil Kodem. See also Shu"t Minchas Yitzchok Vol. 4 Siman 86) However, it is still proper to hold it in your right hand while reciting the Bracha, if possible. (see Ben Ish Chai Parshas V'Eschanan Siman 63) The above is only B'dieved, and L'Chatchilah it is indeed best to hold the Besamim in your right hand when reciting the Bracha, and not simply have them on the table. (See Shulchan Aruch Siman 206:4 and Mishna Berura S"K 17 and 18)
On Motzei Shabbos by Havdalah, the proper procedure is as follows:
The wine should be held in the right hand and the Besamim in the left hand, and Borei Pri Hagafen recited.
Afterwards, the Besamim should be transferred to the right hand and the wine to the left hand, and the Bracha on the Besamim should be recited. [The Besamim should then be put down, and the Bracha on the fire should then be recited while holding up the fingernails to the fire].
The wine should then be returned to the right hand and the rest of the Havdalah text recited. (Shulchan Aruch Siman 296:6, Mishna Berura S"K 31 and Sha'ar HaTzion 28) 2) Another important Halacha which I have been receiving a lot of questions about, and is important to remember is that even though we have been discussing over the past few weeks that different Besamim receive different Brachos, that is only for smelling during the week, and not the case on Motzei Shabbos by Havdalah.
By Havdalah, all pleasant smelling things, regardless of their proper Bracha at other times, receive the Bracha "Borei Minei Besamim", as not to confuse those who are not expert in differentiating between all the various Brachos required on different items.
L'Chatchilah, however, it is best to use something which indeed requires a "Borei Minei Besamim" even when smelled at other times. (See Mishna Berura Siman 297:1)
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Reader Submitted Questions of interest on topics related to Halachos we covered, as well as other interesting topic and Answers. Taken from the Q & A pages on the Halacha For Today website.
Although the answers I give to questions are taken directly from the Sifrei HaPoskim, and aren't my own, they are still for study purposes only, NOT for Psak Halacha.
A husband has to keep what is written in the kesubah. Where does it say the wife's obligations to her husband?
Answer:
According to the Torah, when a woman gets married she According to the Torah, when a woman gets married she belongs to her husband. Not in a negative, derogatory sense that many people make it. rather, she becomes one with him; their neshamos bond and are fused into one.
Thus, the Torah expects a wife to be "Ezer" to her husband in any way possible.
Here are some selections directly from the Rambam.
"A woman must be modest at home. She should not be overly lax or unreserved in his presence. She must not verbally demand marital relations. She should not be overly talkative on the topic of marital relations. She should not withold marital relations from her husband in order to pain him or in order to make him love her more. Rather she shoud give herself to him whenever he wants." (Rambam Hilchos Ishus Perek 15:18)
"A man must respect his wife more than his own body and he must love her like his own body. If he has money he should buy her things according to his means. He should not make her unneccesarily afraid of him. he should talk soft and calm with her. He should not be depressed nor angry." (Rambam Hilchos Ishus Perek 15:19)
"A woman must respect her husband more than necessary and should be in awe of him and provide whatever he requests. A woman should think of her husband as a king; to do whatever he desires and to keep things that he hates away from him. This is the way of the Bnos Yisroel and the Bnei Yisroel who are holy in their married lives. If they follow these ways they will have a happy marriage."(Rambam Hilchos Ishus Perek 15:20)
"A woman is obligated to provide the tasks that all women provide for their husbands which are to sew,wash, serve drinks, prepare hisbed and cater to his other needs. Other tasks that are done are cooking, baking, laundry.
A woman that refuses to do any of the tasks that she must do, is forced to do them." (Rambam Hilchos Ishus Perek 21)
Keep in mind that a man who expects his wife to "Treat him like a king" and provide for all his needs must also remember to "treat her like a queen and respect her more than he respects his own self".
It's a two way street.
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות אלא הלכות - one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in Olam Haba - the world to come. (:מגילה כ"ח )
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