Q. As our children grew up we spend now a long time saying divrei Torah at the seder table, something we all greatly enjoy. We do finish the seder very late, sometimes after 4.00 am. How important is to say Shir Hashirim then, when we are so exhausted? It is a minhag in the family from generations to say it, but is it meakev if you just don't have any kavanah? How about Hatoras Nedorim?
A. Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that if the wording will not be said properly and it will be recited without intention, as when being exhausted and half a sleep, it is preferable to omit.
In regards to hataras nedorim the Rov's opinion is that it may not be needed, since one may prepare better for next year and be able to recite Shir Hashirim properly. Besides, one may also rely on the hatoras nedorim of Erev Rosh Hashono or Yom Kippur declarations.
Rabbi A. Bartfeld as revised by Horav Shlomo Miller Shlit'a
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