Q. I applied for a job at a frum school. I emailed the director at the personal email and then realized that because it was work related-that it should go out to the work email.
I never got any response back from either emails. After a little while I was expecting something along the lines of ‘sorry the positions were filled’ or, ‘not the right fit thank you.’ ....etc. Anything?
Do I have a right to feel annoyed or hurt?
Aren’t frum Jews actions supposed to be of a higher calling. Going the extra mile?
My thoughts being that yidden have a responsibility of Derech Eretz.
Unlike the non-Jewish world where they get applicants all the time and its “normal” not to get any kind of response...
Can the Rav kindly enlighten me with the Halachah.
A. Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that on principle you are right, we are to maintain a higher calling specially if one directs a school and you should have been given a proper reply. However, one must judge others Lekaf Zechus, giving them the benefit of the doubt. If a wrong was done, we must assume it was unintentional and against their conscious will. Likely, in your case the director was overwhelmed by constant and difficult work issues. In our times people in top positions receive many numerous emails and messages, sometime even more than hundreds a day, and cannot possibly answer all.
Rather than sadly and hopelessly feeling annoyed and hurt, one should better engage in happier feelings of forgiveness and trust in Hashem's merciful direction of all events. The above is of utmost importance in the current Yemei Ratzon times, when we prepare for the days when Hashem will judge us all, and we wish it will also be Lekaf Zechus.
Rabbi A. Bartfeld as revised by Horav Shlomo Miller Shlit'a
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