Q. The minhag in our family is to avoid making weddings during the month of Marcheshvan. Does that include also making a vort (compromise)?
A. On question 1183 we wrote; "There are Poskim who maintain that one should avoid being wedded during the month of Marchesvan, (Lev Chaim 2: 26, Sdei Chemed – Maareches Chassan Vekallah 23, who also mentions that this was the Yerushalaim and Kushta traditions, Segulos Yisroel – Maareches Nissuin 31, Minchagei Chabad p.76. Nitei Gavriel – Nissuin 1: 48: 14, who additionally quotes different Chassidic traditions).
However, many others assert that there is no issue at all on getting married on Marchechvan (Shulchan Haezer p. 61, Betzel Hachochma 2: 60, Divros Eliahu 6: 70 et. al.) Sdei Chemed (ibid.) quotes also various permissive sources and mentions that the Chassam Soffer married Rabi Akiva Eiger’s daughter on this month. Nitei Gavriel (ibid.) also quotes many other Chassidic traditions who would perform marriages on this month, such as Tsanz, Belz, Tzeilem, and others.
Horav Shlomo Miller’s Shlit’a opinion is that one should follow the traditions of the community he belongs to and his family minhagim." See also question 1184 for three reasons for those who do not make weddings on Marcheshvan.
Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit'a opinion is that even those who maintain the minhag of not getting married during Marcheshvan, can do a vort then.
Rabbi A. Bartfeld as advised by Horav Shlomo Miller and Horav Aharon Miller Shlit'a
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