Q. Is it proper and even desirable that the wife should be the one to fix and prepare the family menorah for lighting, as she usually does with the Shabbat candles?
A. Poskim disagree: A, see Nitei Gavriel quoting Moed Lechol Chai (27: 25) that permits. However, many Poskim maintain that (as mentioned before), it is the husband’s mitzva to light, not hers. The last opinion is supported by many Chasidik movements and others.
Rabbi A. Bartfeld as revised by Horav Dovid Pam, Horav Aharon Miller, Horav Chanoch Ehrentreu and Horav Kalman Ochs Shlit’a